Who can judge another mind?

"Everything that irritates about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves" Carl Jung

 In recent years, after losing my job as a teacher, because I took a public stand on the vaccination of children and my students with an experimental vaccine, demonstrating its uselessness and moral questionability, I have woken up to the reality of the unemployed. The only real encouraging and life-supporting factor for me during these years has been my own trans identity and process. Despite the dreary circumstances, it has still made me focus, listen to myself, paint, write, express, live and cope. This inner feeling and experience has been completely at odds with the judgmental voices around, how is that possible? Even though disapproving, condemning and even contemptuous voices have sometimes knocked me down, I have always risen from there with more and more determination, my own certainty has not been shaken. For the first time, I have felt what it is like to be whole, rejoicing on my own being and yes, feeling proud... But, but for the first time, I have also been able to feel what it is like to be hated, slandered, cast under suspicion – what it is like to try to breathe between two fires; on the one hand, there are burning flames against the unvaccinated disseminator, on the other hand, the voices are getting louder, condemning what I myself have experienced as the only motivating force; my own identity.

 Humans are strong, I must be exceptionally strong, as I have managed to cope with this nightmarish middle ground so far. This point of view I am now presenting is therefore only presented by a common person, not by a celebrity who gathers strong sympathy, such as J K Rowling. But, this point of view I have presented, which will probably not be conveyed to the general public, but will disappear into the ether, is presented by the person concerned, who has sometimes even been horrified by those who "know everything" about the matter, but who have no personal contact with transgender identity, directly or indirectly. Although the issue greatly affects a diverse group of transgender people, the voices have been people who have nothing but an external understanding of the matter itself. The reason why the voices have now been only one-sided and mainly aggressive towards myself and especially transfeminine people like me is probably due to the fact that most of us are just ordinary "small" people, without the desire, ability or means to influence, just the desire to live our lives in the best possible way and live it in peace without hurting others.

 As the trans debate is now terribly one-sided, I would like our voices to be heard on social media. Now the discussion is justified only and only by the so-called "common sense", it does not include, for example, taking into account the complex human psyche, nor emotions, the diversity of sexuality and looking at things at the level of the heart. Analytical, versatile reflection on issues, in which one might also want to take into account human psychology and the human aspect, is missing from the discussion on social media. However, it lacks the voice of the parties themselves the loudest, the defense is hardly never given a voice in loud statements. This silent speech of mine is an attempt to somehow fill this gap and its purpose is not to launch a counterattack, but rather to find a peaceful solution where all flowers would be allowed to bloom, without offending e.g. biological women and their status, which hardly any transgender person has ever wanted to violate, this is also known to J K Rowling. The transgender debate cannot be conducted on a religious, political, ideological or even spiritual basis, because these have only divided people throughout history and would continue to do so. Mainly it is fundamentally related to humanity, I cannot describe it more precisely; There are things that don't necessarily have words, they just are. Not all in humanity`s psyche can`t be analyzed rationally, even less the superintelligence can`t do.

 When too much starts to be too much, I feel more and more strongly that I no longer fit in this time, in this world, where the level of the heart, the appreciation of freedom and humanity have been abandoned in many other phenomena of our time, such as the control of people through the ever-increasing technocracy. One would hope that those who are conspicuous would dare to take a stand on real phenomena that threaten "traditional values". I'm definitely in favor of free speech, but if it appears one-sided, incitement against a group of people is no longer far away. In this speech, however, I will only focus on this "Trans debate", beouse it concerns me strongly and personally. Black and white thinking seems to have gained a foothold in social media and among political group thinkings. Traditional values can be heard loudly as we now watch the emergence of those "brave" people, while other "brave" people cheer them on. I ask, how many of them dared to stand up when our children were used as a protective shield for the older population, even though it was obviously against the traditional setting? It is easy to be brave when the wind is blowing in the right direction and when you can be sure that it will not cause financia harm, but even benefits your political career.

 I admit that it is difficult to find a way to talk about a multidimensional issue if you are faced with strong attitudes and prejudices. A strong attitude often includes putting oneself in positions that are not moved: knowing everything about everything, even the inner world of the person concerned and what is best for everyone's peace. I mostly feel helpless, but I try anyway. We must find peaceful coexistence in spite of everything, even if the issue is sensitive. As humanity, we have taken many good steps towards good coexistence, even though those steps have been very controversial in the past in the same way as they are now. Children's rights, black rights, women's rights, homosexual rights, have also given rise to heated debates in the past. Now this trans debate may seem to be too much for many, and it is certainly the case that certain excesses have already been made that are apt to irritate. It is possible that mistakes have also been made. If so, it`s useless to attack on transindividuals themselves. Still, it is certain that sweeping transgender people under the rug will no longer be possible, or if it is done, great violence will be committed, the peace of mind of those who think traditionally, will then have a high price. There must be a meeting point where no one is offended and a life worth living is possible for everyone. In any case, this is certainly a more fruitful direction for societies.

 It is necessary, even though my instinct of self-preservation warns me, to bring up my own case in more detail in this context. For many today, it is whether they are trans or so-called. normal, seems to be the most important factor that defines a person, not so much a person's personality. So I've gone through hormone treatments, but I haven't operated on "it" away, and not going to do it. For me, the other feminine features of my body are pleasing, plus dressing and also makeup. In many societies and cultures, the phenomenon has apparently been lived with peacefully long before the trans phenomenon rose to the surface more in Europe and the Western world. In many Asian countries, people who express their gender differently have always been treated naturally, and no major threat to the traditional values of culture has been seen. I would describe myself as a "second-class woman" at the moment, as Katoys, the ladyboys, have long been described in Thailand and how they have been treated. They can, not have to, be treated as women, but they are still men in the eyes of the law. Many Katoys prefer traditional women's professions, thus emphasizing their own femininity. They are allowed with hormone treatment.

 For me, this kind of femininity has also been enough, I don't feel like I'm a threat to biological women or femininity, I'm just a ladyboy/shemale. Names can easily cause confusion, which is why I am a bit wary of the somewhat generalized term trans woman - it can be quite provocative in itself, if you want to feel that way. However, as I said earlier, the spectrum of transgender polists is diverse, and I can't speak for anyone but myself. In general, you have to be careful in all generalizations and defining the other person's mind is always timid. Skilled psychologists have been trained in this, and it would be good to take this into account in the general discussion, before the judgement on the basis of common sense. Ultimately, however, people themselves are their own best experts, that should be remembered. However, a psychologist can help you understand through all the layers that can be called, for example, conditioning. To deepen the trans debate from the present, it would not hurt to return to, for example, the findings and principles of Carl Jung, the founder of analytical psychology, who deeply understands the characteristics of the human mind, and the principles for understanding the human mind.

 In the midst of all this proclamation of "common sense", one essential point the haters (my experience of the debate) have forgotten. It is a point that I have come to see clearly and which I would like to highlight at the end of my speech. There are a lot of men who are attracted only to trans women or men who express themselves in a feminine way, that's a fact. I ask why they are not brought into the spotlight in the same way, why are they not whipped with the same omniscient whip of "common sense", allowing them to understand their base feelings as "normally" alien to man and judgeable. Especially in the muslim countries their, as well as transpeoples themselves, situation is unbearable. To JK Rowling and other eye-catchers, I suggest that this other side of the coin should also be taken into account in the next bold public statements. Is this the threat to biological women that people are now worried about? I would say that the concern is quite unfounded; Based on my experience, a large number of trans admirer men are homosexually or bisexually oriented. Also i have seen many natural women being sexually interested of transwomen or just admiring, not seeing them as a thread. One feature of transgender politics is actually related to homosexuality, if we think about sexual orientation that is, or may not be, related to transgenderism. I say this broadly, because I know that there are variations. However, fertility is and will remain in the biological woman, and I don't think this should be touched, this is my clear position. I'm also one of those transgender people who understand that the only two biological sexes must be preserved, but the so-called third gender as an experience-based gender should be highlighted in some contexts. We are not so seriously threatening the foundations of society, there are real threads existing instead elsewhere.

 So we must find peaceful coexistence, we must meet each of us, without accepting self-denial and sacrificing oneself for the sake of the peace of mind of others – this "gift of God" should be allowed to live according to the voice of one's own heart and in balance with oneself, free from all kinds of pressure and coercion, of which humanity has already had enough foretaste in recent years and which threatens to swell even more. So-called possible excesses should be reconsidered and cautioned.

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"What you resist not only persists but will grow in size" Carl Jung

The article examines the topic only from one point of view, mainly from a point of view that concerns oneself, and thus some viewpoints have not been taken into account. Writing is mainly a reaction to the one-sided presentation of the issue on social media, which can lead to harmful, distorted generalizations. The author may return taking into account other perspectives as well, because dealing with a complex issue in one writing is too challenging.